Do feminists hate men?

I have already been called an ugly feminist on the Forum. So everyone knows that I am a feminist, and it is obvious that pretty feminists do not exist. I was called that by a user named Kowaluu. Do I hate him? Yes, but since he is a boy, we will count him as half a man. If my husband gets on my wrong side, I hate him too. That is another man. But since hatred is the other side of love, let us count him as half as well. In total, as a feminist, I hate one whole man. But that is not all. I also hate rapists. There must be millions of them.

It follows as clearly as two plus two that I hate a quite substantial number of men. I have to add Jan Pospieszalski and the Giertychs (father and son), as well as misogynists of every kind. There will easily be hundreds of millions. Indeed, feminists hate men.

The problem, however, is not whether, as a feminist, I hate men—which I have already proved—but whether I am allowed to.

Let us take rapists, for example. If a so-called normal woman says that she hates rapists, she will hear: But of course that is natural; after all, you are a woman. With the emphasis on “natural.” If a feminist admits the same, she will learn: But of course that is obvious; after all, they rape women. With the emphasis on “women.”

The definition of a feminist supposedly means that a male is her enemy, so she hates for hatred’s sake—even those unfortunate rapists.

Whatever we want to say, whatever subject we want to discuss, we must begin by explaining our alleged permanent hatred of all men. For a woman and hatred are supposedly incompatible. Hatred is a male emotion.

But it is precisely thanks to this feeling that one becomes capable of fighting. Even when standing up for one’s own defense, it is impossible to do without aggression. And women have had plenty to fight for throughout the years: the right to vote, inheritance rights, access to education, and humane treatment. Privileges that are not obtained through peaceful means and gentleness.

For all those who do not believe me, I propose a small experiment. By peaceful means, with kind words, tenderness, and the sweetness inherent to the fair sex, please take control of the television remote at home. But not for one evening or one series. Forever.

Normal women do not like feminists either. Precisely for the same reason men do not like them: because feminists make use of male emotions.

If nobody likes or wants feminists, would the world be better off without them?

I look at my grandmother, who gave up her career to care for her children and husband and always regretted it, because she had to endure her husband constantly reminding her whose money she was living on. And I look at my friend, who gave up her career to raise her children, but who is able to tell her husband that her work at home is important and necessary. Did this change happen by itself?

I listen to women who were beaten as wives and who today are able to say no and stand up against domestic violence. Thirty or fifty years ago, they would have suffered in silence, with the family’s silent consent. I notice a tremendous change in the way single mothers and their children are treated today. The examples could be multiplied.

I can answer the question of whether feminists hate men.

I can answer the question of why neither men nor normal women like feminists.

I just cannot answer the question of why feminists are not allowed to hate at least some men.

Grażyna Hanaf